dear ............,
I have spent almost 5 years of my life in the shadows, being polite. I will do that no more. I am tired of putting on a happy face and pretending everything is happy go lucky. You damaged me. You damaged my daughter. You damaged the woman you cheated on me with. You damaged the child you got her pregnant with while married to me. You are still married to her and living with another woman raising a child that is not yours....while you come up with every excuse in the book as to why you cannot pay child support for your own flesh and blood.
I stopped loving you many years ago. I stopped counting on you...but your daughter did not. She is INNOCENT and I have KEPT it that way. I have not told her how you cheated in marriage...how you desecrated your vows to TWO women now. I DO NOT want her to know the HORRIBLE things you do because I DO NOT want her to marry A MAN LIKE YOU. The worst thing that could ever happen to her would be to fall in love with a man like you. Do you have any idea how much it hurts to say that? I wanted so much more for her than what you turned out to be.
While you sit at home blaming everybody else in your life for your downfalls, ANOTHER MAN helps me raise your daughter. A MAN SHE NOW CALLS DADDY. He did not initiate that. I did not initiate that. SHE did because he is all she knows as a father. You can come in once a month and take your pictures and see her in HER home that HER DADDY AND I PROVIDE. You can tell me that I am horrible because I will not let her go 3 hours away NOW when I tried FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS to get you to care and you turned your back. I kept telling you the time would come that the window of opportunity would come slamming closed. I warned you, I begged you, I threatened you. I kept you a part of her life for 3 years by showing her pictures and talking only good things to her...EVEN THOUGH YOU WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH HELPING RAISE HER AT THE TIME.
Now, years later you think you can walk right back in and I am going to hand her over to you without a second thought? Think again. I tried to do that. I stayed in bad hotels and put my self at risk for years to hand deliver her to you. YOU ruined that, not me. SHE DESERVED A DADDY. YOU wanted to go out and stuff that thing that dangles between your legs into any whole that accepted it. Is that what you want in a husband for her??????
NO. I AM SORRY. WHERE WERE YOU WHEN SHE HAD SURGERY? Not with her. WHERE WERE YOU WHEN SHE HAD HEALTH SCARES? Not with her. WHERE ARE YOU WHEN SHE NEEDS THINGS? Not helping her. I am tired of diverting her questions and avoiding the truth with her. SHE DESERVES THE TRUTH and I will no longer hide it from her.
What you didn't count on was her daddy coming into our lives and picking up the pieces you walked away from. HE held her after surgery. HE comforted her in her night terrors. HE is who she calls out for. HE is the one that worked 11 hour days to provide for her. HE is her daddy. You are just one of the many adults in her life that come and go...when you are not around she is just as ok with things as when you are around.
I am beyond tired of your bullying and upside down views of how things should work. You split from me....not her yet you were such a COWARD you took it out on her because she is an extension of me. THAT IS YOUR BURDEN TO CARRY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, NOT MINE. You screwed up your relationship with her single handedly. If it wasn't for me, she wouldn't even know who you are, yet you continue to blame me for things YOU caused.
BE A MAN. grow up. open your damn eyes. You owe us an apology. You owe her daddy a thank you. maybe....MAYBE when she is older and can understand better she will make the choice to visit you. MAYBE. Then you can explain to her she has a brother she has never met because you don't know how to keep your dick in your pants. You can also explain to her that her mommy lost her sibling due to the stress you caused from getting another woman pregnant.
Go ahead and put up your facebook pictures and write about how she is your princess. WE know the truth. I will no longer allow you to make me out to be a monster just to keep public things private.
The best thing you ever did for her was walk away. Feel free to stay away. Her daddy and I got this...as we always have.
